We think ‘we will solve problems on the outside and then become peaceful’. What we don’t see is, in every attempt to solve the problem, we end up creating new problems. The original problem (a hologram, which does not exist), doesn’t need a solution (Video 221), (Video 168a), (Video 184).
Striving for an external action or power (i.e. a false solution) (in terms of attachment to wealth (not the wealth itself), certain skill set (being a litigious lawyer), possessing confidential information (like a business secret), high IQ, manners/etiquettes, good looks, feeling of ‘Guilt & Gratitude), desire for possession of material thing, anger, hatred, ….), not only does it not solve a true problem, it itself becomes a new problem. A karma takes birth for a problem that didn’t exist and it will cause an ‘equal and opposite reaction’.
When we find a solution for a problem that doesn’t exist, efforts taken for such a solution cause us to attach false importance to it. Now that we have invested so much in that solution, we must treat the problem as real (it can be sports, traditions, work/ profession, religion, God, democracy, economic system, education system or by solving a certain relationship problem we get ourselves a false confirmation that ‘problem did exist’, by accepting the sympathy we falsely confirm the presence of suffering (Video 128), ….), else we may appear as a fool in our own eyes, which in turn forces us to take further actions in the same direction. Effect (which shouldn’t have existed) becomes the cause and gives birth to another effect, and a vicious cycle begins (Video 61). Its side effects come in the form of daily distress (guilt, gratitude, inferiority, confusion, anger, hatred, envy, excitement, hostility, not knowing what is right, conflicts between people due to false interpretation of the same situation, ….). We may say ‘I am doing a harmless/ meaningless act’ (small celebration, expressing gratitude, to pray in front of God/ Temple/ Church, ….. ), but just because we don’t know how things work doesn’t mean they don’t affect us. And they are going to collect the toll (Video 113). We might lose years of our life on something trivial just to find out that an entire act was just a hoax.
The best solution to problems that shouldn’t have existed, is to stop creating them, not solve them. If we want the world to be a rational place, then we have to become rational and objective individually. There is no other way out.
Earlier, when I started losing interest in things (the intensity of admiration for things, not the things itself), I thought something was wrong with me. Now it all makes sense. I was never wrong. I appeared so in comparison with the people around me.
To stumble upon something more interesting & real, things that are less valuable need to fall apart (Video 32a). We cannot have both.
( Take a pause …. )
If we make the wrong judgment of an observation (or a thing, nature, trend, tradition, culture, ritual, social convention….), then we will act/ think according to that wrong judgment and it will yield us wrong conclusions. That’s why even when we think we have found the right answers to our problems, the problems don’t actually go away. If I didn’t have the information about the existence of the Sentinelese tribe, I would have lost many arguments with myself and I would still be right. Winning or losing an argument with another person or with the conditioned self doesn’t solve the actual problem. Only the knowledge of facts can solve them (Video 189).
We may win an argument or get an upper hand by hiding certain information (eg. parents not telling kids the real reason about why they brought them to life (Video 241)) but we would still be wrong in totality (Video 113).
We go into comparison to get out of it. One comparison gives us an ideal, multiple comparisons tell us that no one thing is ideal/ right. And hence trying to fit everything in a certain pattern of life doesn’t work. It always breeds violence.
( Take a pause …. )
(Video 18) At any point of time, our interpretation of the event is the truest nature of reality available to us. When two people judge or interpret the same thing ((Video 95), (Video 140), (Video 159), an event, a situation, material stuff, trends, traditions, daily routines, rituals, social conventions, nature, a thought, action, person ….) in two different ways, there exists a conflict and cause different levels of agony and they both can be wrong from some third point of reference (similar to gender pay gap example or (Video 184)). People’s interpretation of other people is based on their limited set of experiences, social & biological conditionings, biodiversity, …… which varies from person to person and hence the different judgements (Video 217).
An experiment : Gender based alteration in color perception (https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21675035/)
This study was carried out in the department of Physiology, SGRRIM&HS, Dehradun on 60 ocular healthy subjects (equal number of males and females) of 17-22 years of age group. The task was to match 22 test color strips with 2 shade charts of different colors. Total number of correct answers and total time taken in matching all the test color strips with the shade charts was recorded in both the sexes and analyzed. The results of this study showed that overall, females gave more correct responses and also took less time than males. Color wise also, females gave more correct responses especially for red and green color. The conclusion states that the females can see more shades of colors than males.
And it is very possible that more shades of colors exist that are beyond the sensory ability of human females.
( contemplate …. )
Experience / Event = Physical Event + Emotional Reaction
Physical events remain the same for both sides, but emotional reactions or interpretation may vary from person to person and hence people experience the same event in different ways except for what it actually is and hence all of them can be wrong (Video 125a), (Video 204), (Video 141).
Our pains and pleasures aren’t real (Video 164). It may be real to someone who is going through it, but that’s because of his/her own false interpretation. But almost everyone thinks their interpretation is right with certainty. We suffer (happiness, anger, hatred, false admiration, (Video 74), ….) from ignorance, not from the situation (any feeling of (so-called) happiness/ hatred associated with the action is the blindness, not the action itself (Video 1)).
If I didn’t have the information about the existence of the Sentinelese tribe, I would have lost many arguments with myself and I would still be wrong. Winning or losing an argument with another person or with the conditioned self doesn’t solve the actual problem. Only the knowledge of facts can solve them (Video 189).
We may win an argument or get an upper hand by hiding certain information (eg. parents not telling kids the real reason about why they brought them to life (Video 331)) but we would still be wrong in totality (Video 113).
Anything born of blindness is a ‘Sin’ (‘Good/ Right’ is the ‘Sin’ not the ‘Useful/ objectivity’). To find out that our pain is false, we must stay with it, not run away from it (especially blaming others instead of going inside).
It is very possible that billions of (so-called) normal people around us are doing the same things every day and they can still be completely wrong. In such cases, generally, the interpretation of the powerful one (an individual or a group) supersedes the objectivity (Father – Son (Video 325), Senior – Junior, Majority – Minority (Video 314), …) (Video 211), (Video 108)).
Society may impose their ideologies on younger ones simply because they are more powerful (image below) ….
(Had the same conflict been arisen between a father and his teenage son, the father would have succeeded 100% in imposing his ideologies on his son without having to take son’s opinion into consideration. And there is nothing that son would have been able to do about it (because his needs are held hostage) (Video 319). But there is no meaning in blaming people. They themselves are stuck in the system.
Just because something feels weird or wrong doesn’t necessarily mean it is wrong (Video 145). Our emotional reactions are irrational and are mostly born of subtle comparison & wrong habits. They cannot be trusted (Video 141) )
OR the Church won the struggle with Galileo. Galileo was also smart, but his skills were not admired by others. He did have true power but not the false power.
We talk or present ourselves differently (in very subtle ways) to different people (even inside families). Outside the house we all encounter different events, situations. Even if we are living under the same roof, there is a high probability that we are being subjected to different kinds of environments (with partial overlaps) and hence different interpretations of the same event. But the interpretations are not the facts (Video 213).
If we humans are so smart, then why aren’t we objective about our interpretation of events …? Or maybe we are not as smart as we think we are. We just say it because it satisfies our ego (or because it makes us feel good).
(Take a pause ……)
We go to a temple/ church, attend function, hold on to traditions/ rituals, travel, small talks, go to work, or play a piano, blame someone, movies, music, sports, water parks, other entertainments, interior, memories (and hence feeling/ emotions associated with them) (Video 180), photos, …. but they all are different physical forms of the same psychological desire to keep mind occupied (few things might be necessary/ right but we do them for the wrong reasons). We have gathered a false sense of responsibilities/ duties to trick ourselves. The very inability to be quiet or to be empty (apart from needs) is what has given birth to all those things around us. We are too afraid to find out who we are, so we keep distracting ourselves. We like getting our emotions/ feelings triggered that keeps us anything but neutral. And every movement towards neutral feels like boredom/ miserable relatively (like relative velocity). Most of happiness and misery is comparative (relative), there is no absoluteness in them. Is there a difference between the chemical drugs and the ones mentioned above …?. Some of them are visible to the eyes and others are not, but both take the consciousness away.
We travel or go from one place to another to feel different. But people who have been living there for a long time don’t feel anything different about that place. What do we look for when we go somewhere else …? Is it the architecture …? people’s faces …? or their state of mind (which is not reflected on their face (including this very moment). They themselves might not be aware of it) …? No one can train us to notice these things. We have to do it for ourselves. Everything on the outside changes but not the inside.
We are not interested in the actual things (tradition, trend, manner, etiquette, festival, function, gold, interior, material/non-material things …..) but the false sensation we can extract from that movement (because our senses detect flux or change. They become numb to stationary things). If we were to celebrate ‘Diwali/ Christmas’ everyday, we wouldn’t be able to experience them. We want to live in a false world. A painting (person/ event/ situation/ material thing) better be seen from a distance, else we might notice the brush strokes. It’s difficult (or impossible) to notice the illusion when we are under its spell, and learning lessons at the end is meaningless (Video 122). Ego looks for things that don’t exist (not just the outside expressions but actual feeling and the intensity/depth of that feeling from where those expressions originate, something that is cherished by ‘common experience’. These intensities are the product of a false value-system, mostly learned through passive observations of the world outside since childhood) and hence it can never be satisfied (Video 56). And it also demands the repetition of sensation with different physical forms (Video 93). (So-called) harmless things affect our psyche. We just don’t get to see how. The important question is ‘Why do things like these take birth in the first place …?’ We want to get rid of our problems but we don’t want to let go of the manufacturing plant (Ego & irrational sensations) that keeps creating those problems. How will we ever be free …?
We do a lot of things in order to get constantly triggered. If we buy something, it doesn’t feel different for long (and even if it does, it is mostly because others desire for that thing but not actually having it). If we go somewhere, we don’t feel the same if we stay there longer. Trying a new outfit, culture/tradition doesn’t feel different after some time. Eventually we always stumble upon neutral (or lose the falseness associated with things over the period). The excitement of an achievement doesn’t last forever. If we repeat a funny/ comedy video multiple times in a row, it stops amusing us. If we have to let go of something dear to us, the pain of it still doesn’t last longer (we can make attempts to hold on to it, but it’s still going to slip away (Video 93), (Video 255)). We want to be in a constant state of feeling something as it keeps our ego awake. We try to suck false emotions/ experiences from where it doesn’t exist and that struggle becomes our life (because it’s impossible to live something that doesn’t exist and it needs constant maintenance). Who are we trying to fool, others or ourselves …? because time doesn’t come back.
We like being in a continuous state of flux but not stable (either at personal or social level). When things are stable, we start looking for change and when things are changing, we look for stability and the cycle goes on. The system outside is just the reflection of who we are at an individual level. There is boom/ growth then recession, manipulation in stock market, fluctuating interest rates (or repo rates), inflation, …. . These things don’t happen naturally, we do them unconsciously, we just don’t see the connections. We need these things to keep people engaged and enslaved. They give us a false sense of goal. Whip of inflation is used to force people to empty their pockets (people are forced to make investments. They are not allowed to keep the money). The majority of individual / social conflicts between people have direct or indirect connection with finances.
People can easily be made to feel miserable and to have conflicts with each other by outside stimulations. Our psyche and emotional reactions are controlled by outside events, we just don’t get to see how all the time (Video 236), (Video 8), (Video 100), (Video 27), (Video 313). All these things are kept complicated, else everyone will understand them and hence may become immune to exploitation.
Why waste time and energy in making attempts to predict the market (something we can control) …? We are not stable at individual level nor is our system (which is nothing but our reflection). These things follow a certain pattern because we (humans) do things in a pattern (like a robot), we just fail to notice it. Those patterns may last from a few days to a few years. We are able to notice short term patterns (mostly in others, not in self) but the long term patterns go unnoticed.
( Take a pause …. )
People need not be judged as good/ bad or right/ wrong, but they can be judged whether they are conscious or unconscious (/ blind) at any particular moment (people are mostly found on the unconscious side).
Conscious/ Authentic: With their own point of view (un-touched of surrounding), conscious of self/ ego, having the sense of right or wrong that takes into account the entire nature (biology, probability, normal distribution, biodiversity, social conditioning, …), ability to watch one’s own thoughts and emotional reactions to outside circumstances, ability to locate the origin his/ her actions, reactions and habits, ability to go against one’s own habits using knowledge (Video 125a), (Video 204), (Video 141), …
Not Conscious: Herd Mentality, brainwashed, socially conditioned (Video 236), (Video 8), under the influence of chemicals (Alcohol, cocaine, …., testosterone, estrogen, dopamine, adrenaline, oxytocin, (Video 70), (elevated sensation) ….), constant desire for stimulation, expectation from others, easily swayed by human irrationality, affected by others praise, taking decision based on feeling good-superior (Video 79a), (Video 227), ….
( Take a pause …. )
Many countries have minority/ majority issues. India has Hindu-Muslim issues. The US has racial history (Video 80 – something that doesn’t exist inherently but taught through social contact (especially through passive observation)). If the entire world had only one religion, would the world have been a completely peaceful place …? As long as there is something to blame on the outside, we assume that’s where the problem lies. If ‘race’ is the ultimate problem, then conflict should cease to exist once that problem is taken care of, but that doesn’t seem to be the case. Even the people who have all the basic needs taken care of, still end up in conflicts (or are hostile towards each other) and many other associated problems. Unfortunately, we have so many things on the outside that give a false sense of the problem that we don’t even get the chance to find out that I/ we are the problem.
What is a color anyway …? What we perceive as color is nothing but a specific wavelength of light reflected and not absorbed by that surface.
Do the things have any color on their own ( a person’s skin & hair, clothes, cars/bikes/trucks, walls, grass/leaves/lawn, a water bottle, mobile phone covers, chairs/tables, flooring, bed-sheets, footwears, black text on a white paper of a book, pen, billboard, ….) …? (take a close look around yourself). There is a huge difference between knowing certain information and actually living it 24 x 7. (That doesn’t mean we should choose things that unnecessarily make us uncomfortable. But there is nothing to get obsessed with it as well).
( Take a pause …. )
Actions & Reactions :
We all are walking-talking magnets, influencing each other in some ways (Video 257). Feelings/ influences/ impressions or emotions are exchanged between people without any actual physical contact and both sides play a role in that exchange (eg. a father – son interaction without any words, merely sitting on a bench with a stranger, exchanging the feelings of superiority and inferiority, (Video 108), (Video 160), ….).
Also, we want to be in a position where we can influence (or gain partial control over) someone else’s psyche (either directly or indirectly : it can be in the form of a gift, creating audio/ video/ text content, music, movies, (Video 59), (Video 235), interior of a house, beautification of our body (attire, make-up, wearing a suit, …), ….).
We are not (or less) interested in something that doesn’t react. A reaction expected in the future forms the foundation of our current actions or words. We enslave ourselves to such reactions. But why do we want such a control over others’ psyche (even if it is in a small percentage) ..? Are we afraid of being alone …?. Not doing these things tells us more clearly why we are doing what we are doing. And others’ reactions (no matter how subtle) act as a proof of our power ((Video 227), (Video 183a) OR when a teacher enters a classroom and if students change their posture, it acts as a proof of teacher’s power OR (Video 257). (Again : We are less interested in actual actions, attire or words and more in the exchange of sensations)). In that interaction, when one side goes indifferent (psychologically), the other one becomes meaningless (Video 46a), (Video 46b). Or it never had any meaning in the first place. The entire phenomenon was just a hologram in our head. Both sides are set free in one encounter.
A powerful person has a false sense of power, a powerless person has a false sense of powerlessness and when they come together, the entire illusion is sustained (Video 23). Similar is the case with ‘Sympathy’ (where both sides have the illusion of suffering). People around us might give us a false sense of power (or powerlessness or righteousness) and it might feed our ego, but the responsibility falls on us to not take it the way it is being portrayed. The kinds of needs/wants/desires that we humans have given to ourselves, we (and our body) has made it difficult for us to be independent and hence ought to be influenced. We are trained to feel weak and guilty by giving us things to strive for. And we make it impossible to find out what the alternate reality is (Video 167), (Video 305). So we are left with no other option but to take what everyone does as right, but there is no peace.
( Take a pause … )
We like people who live up to our ‘Subtle expectations’ and don’t like them when they don’t live up to it (which might be cherished by ‘Common experience’ but that does not make it right. We like animals and human babies, mostly because they are easier to control. We don’t like animals (including humans) that we cannot control (or that don’t satisfy our ego (Video 161), (Video 167)) irrespective of whether they are right or wrong). For some strange reason, we want people to run behind us like a puppy. We want people to be somewhat powerful so that we can use them but not powerful enough that they won’t need us at all (Video 220). We, as an individual or society, fear those who refuse to be controlled (Video 337).
We can notice how difficult it is to not hate someone who doesn’t live up to our wishes. We never stop and think ‘What if I am the one who is wrong …?’ (Video 246). Our emotional reactions always arrange themselves in such a way that we appear as a good person, but can they be trusted …?.
1. Why do we like babies …? Is it because they are weak …? Almost everyone goes along fine with kids. But if the same baby grows up and questions our authority, would we still like it …?
And if we like weak people, what does that tell us about ourselves …? Rebelliousness of toddlers doesn’t bother us much because to some extent we already know that ‘no matter what they do, they won’t be able to overpower us (i.e. we are in control (Video 253))’. We are not threatened by their presence. But we don’t like rebellious teenagers or adults because we are afraid of losing control forever (Video 329). ‘Weakness’ mostly interprets the threat far bigger than it actually is. The conflict is less about age difference and more about power dynamics and control.
2. When a man touches a woman in an inappropriate way, the instantaneous reaction is to inflict physical harm or to slap him (maybe because she was made to feel weak or maybe because she is afraid of losing control over her environment). But if a woman touches a man in an inappropriate way, a man may defend himself but not necessarily slap her in the first instant (maybe because back of the mind, he knows that he can overpower her at any moment). Again, ‘Weakness’ mostly interprets the threat far bigger than it actually is and reacts accordingly. Why else would there be two different reactions for the same event …?. The conflict is less about gender and more about power dynamics or control (Video 258a), (Video 258b). But we may make the entire argument about gender to divert the focus away from our weakness.
Equally applicable for the conflict between two nations (where one country is physically more powerful than the other) OR conflict between Govt. and its citizens (protests marches, labor strikes, farmers protests, ….) or Father-Son conflict, ….. .
It is the ‘weakness’ that makes the noise (Video 254), not the gender.
Some of us may not cherish the company of powerful ones because their mere presence makes us feel incompetent (Video 249).
We need to question our own likes & dislikes or the character/qualities we look for in a person (the moment we like someone/ something too much, we should go on ‘alert’ mode. We are mistaking a ‘Neutral’ action or situation for ‘Good / Right’, we just don’t know how (Video 125)). When we overestimate something, becoming normal also feels painful in comparison.
( Take a pause …. )
Capitalism, communism and democracy are, on their own, incompetent to solve the paradox of the system. (e.g. the very core of democracy itself is at fault. So, it never mattered how fairly and corruption free the government is run, the problems will never go away. The outcome is predefined).
Only way for humanity to survive in a better way (not just physically but psychologically) is ‘Capitalist’ with self imposed communism’ (he who may keep the wealth making infrastructure in his hands, but not much interested in gathering the profits), something that doesn’t happen through blind beliefs like moral/ethical obligation or social responsibility. It is something that is born out of being truly selfish (seeking freedom from the feeling of emptiness, worries, fears, thoughts, freedom from choice (Video 135) and not the false selfishness (which is the product of hostility)) and it happens without any outside imposition. It keeps Capitalists on their toes and diminishes the hostility in the system allowing it to take the shape of Normal Distribution. At that point, what kind of work one does becomes irrelevant (hence no wastage of energy in making a choice about the best option for work, education, investment, ….) and a true sense of equality of opportunity won’t matter much (which is not possible anyway). Effects like ‘Priming effect’, random experiences, variable interpretations of the same event, …. will be there, but they would lose their impact in wholeness. By increasing the sample size, luck is taken out of the equation.
Also, actual valuation (intensity of admiration or dislike for something or actual monetary value of certain work, art or material. thing) is intangible. But similar to energy, the wealth (not the interpreted value) of the system remains constant, it just goes from one hand to another or one Bank Account to another (eg. Total amount of Gold on earth is fixed. Based on the amount of Gold we have excavated till date and the change in population and desire for it, its false value keeps changing but its total quantity/value on the earth remains the same).
(Where did all these resources go …?, did they escape from the planet earth …?)
True valuation of anything (certain art, skillset, material/non-material things, religion, culture, …) isn’t necessary (which is impossible anyway) as long as resources are pumped back into the system in useful ways.
When the world becomes a less hostile and more logical place, our intensity of attachments ((Video 171), (Video 216), (Video 184), (Video 97), ….) will reduce and hence the suffering or unnecessary excitement (which is directly proportional to the depth of attachments) will also vanish as if it never existed (note that the suffering & excitement won’t be resolved. It just won’t arise in the first place (Video 180)). It also means we won’t be able to take the credit (i.e. attention) for the dissolution of the problem because people did not actually get the opportunity to see us solving the problem, we just did not allow the problem to arise in the first place. But we don’t like solutions like these because we won’t be able to extract sentiments & attention from them (Video 255), (Video 271).
Temporary solutions only hide the problems. By hiding it, the problem takes a bigger shape and re-attacks with more power but it never goes away.
Had there been no hostility between two nations, the desire to create a defense system (i.e. military) wouldn’t have clicked our mind in the first place. Is it really a wonder that we haven’t been able to solve our problems for so long …?. We have to realize that these problems can never be solved. But we can stop them from coming to life.
( Take a pause …. )
And we are a collection of such cells. The option of ‘not to be selfish’ does not exist for us. All of our attachments are selfish (parents – children, husband – wife, friends, …..). We may not always know how, but they are. We fail to look at things the way they are, because we all are trained to interpret them in a wrong way (and when an entire group repeats certain wrong tendencies, it creates false reality).
When a cell becomes truly selfish, it unintentionally ends up helping the body (because that’s the way the system is designed). As long as a ‘Kidney’ is trying to become a ‘Liver’, there will be a constant feeling of uneasiness in it. And when it stops becoming something else, it stumbles upon itself (Video 221). We don’t need to become what we already are. We just need to stop becoming something else. We may succeed, to some extent, at being something else, but we will never be good at it (Video 320), ( (Video 302) – A genius), ((Video 210) – Best teacher).
A person, biologically born with high IQ, does not choose science as his passion. He doesn’t have any other option. Other things just don’t interest him enough and he can’t help it (Video 225). Creative people cannot restrict themselves from being creative. They can’t help it either (Video 152). Monkeys hang on trees, dogs wander on streets – they don’t do it out of choice.
It is only when we stumble upon our temperament that we become fearless, not otherwise (we can reverse engineer it as well. If we feel least anxious while doing something, it means that’s what or that’s how we were supposed to do things. It can be one single thing or a collection of things OR the same things, just being done in different ways. Some of those things may or may not exist in the world. In that case, we will have to invent them). When we work at our respective highest potential (Video 316) – wealth, working hours, uncertainties of life, looking for faults in others, interfering in others matters, meaningless comparisons (Video 306), desire for attention, .…. everything becomes irrelevant. And when people are somewhat fearless, they don’t feel weak every now and then and hence, they don’t cause any unnecessary violence (Video 335).
—> [ From TRADING IN THE ZONE by Mark Douglas :
It is at the deepest level of our being that the potential for conflict exists. The social structure that we’re born into may or may not be sensitive to these inner-directed needs and interests. For example, you may have been born into a family of extremely competitive athletes, but feel a passionate interest in classical music or art. You may even have natural athletic ability, but no real interest in participating in athletic events. Is there any potential for conflict here …?
In a typical family, most members would put a great deal of pressure on you to follow in the footsteps of your brothers, sisters, or parents. They do everything possible to teach you their ways and how to get the most out of your athletic ability. They discourage you from seriously pursuing any other interests. You go along with what they want, because you don’t want to be ostracized, but at the same time, doing what they want you to do just doesn’t feel right, although everything you’ve learned and been taught argues in favor of becoming an athlete. The problem is, it doesn’t feel like who you are. ] <—
Our temperaments & inclinations are not specific things that exist in the world outside. Let’s say someone is stubborn about becoming a pilot. But what if planes were not invented yet …?, would that person even have that desire …?, are we really interested in the actual thing …?Inclination itself does not have any physical form, it takes the form of its environment & conditioning.
( Take a pause …. )
[ Creating a new path :
(Video 81) Could the advice about right things be taken from wrong people …? Jyotiba Phule decided to educate girls in 1848 when girls were not allowed to go to school. And people (who certainly thought they were right) did everything possible in their power to stop him and his wife from educating girls (People pelted stones and hurled cow dung at them for doing so). What if Jyotiba Phule had taken advice about providing education to girls from people who tried to stop him …? (contemplate), Should he have waited for someone else to do it first …? These are situations where we are alone. Having an expectation that people will not get in your way or they won’t try to stop you is being immature.
Also, when we (/people) can’t fight with someone intellectually, they try to make them weak, either physically, psychologically (guilt traps), socially or financially (whatever is their kryptonite). We tend to interpret ‘Different’ (something we can’t comprehend) as ‘Wrong’ and we always learn our lessons at the end.
The consciousness always appears arrogant to the ego. It does not necessarily mean people are wrong (or evil), but it does make them blind. If we need people to join us to do something or to initiate something, then either we don’t know what we are doing or we are doing those things for the wrong reasons. We might need some help, but not with the core idea. If we need help with the core idea, that certainly means we don’t know what we are doing. But why wait for someone else to do this kind thing first…? Are we not smart enough to do things on our own…? (in all segments of life). Why do we always have to be the sheep …? What are we afraid of …? (the only way to find out is to make an effort in the opposite direction). Is something of ours (needs/ wants) held hostage …? Do we not have a personal sense of right and wrong …?
The ones who need an example to follow, cannot go beyond the example or won’t be able to create one (Video 169). ]
“Fearlessness is your best outfit. It always fits and never goes out of fashion” (Video 305).
(Video 296 – Who would you like to be, a wealthy & powerful king or Achilles …? and why …?)
True success : To be able to do something with minimal internal conflict & resistance (other’s reaction, outside resistance and working hours becomes irrelevant at that moment).
But the way money flows (i.e. biased and irrational), we end up doing things that don’t make sense and hence we feel as if we are out of sync with life. Without the perspective of wholeness, life doesn’t make sense. We are naturally wired to be truly useful to others. No work in itself will ever fulfill anyone unless it is associated with oneness or wholeness of the world.
Being Useful :
Falsely useful : To teach someone ‘History’ the wrong way (or conventional way) free of cost.
Truly useful : To teach someone ‘History & Present’ as part of human psychology (whether paid or unpaid is irrelevant). ]
‘Helping others’ is a mere side effect of being truly selfish and hence there is no expectation of ‘subtle appreciation’ which also means there will be no pain when someone won’t live up to those expectations.
[ (Video 340a, Video 340b) – Beavers build dams for their own survival, but it unintentionally helps other species and nature as a side effect. Gravity was not discovered out of necessity or to help someone. It was the product of curiosity (i.e. pure selfishness). It did help us take science forward, but it was not discovered with that intention. Michael Faraday made many discoveries in the field of Chemistry and Electromagnetism. Was it the curiosity or the desire to help others that made him a scientist …?. Galileo’s discovery was also the product of curiosity. Hence the appreciation received in such an aspect is meaningless (not good, nor bad) ((Video 10) – does the appreciation matters …?. People’s appreciation/validation is their stupidity. If people value meaningless things, there is nothing we can do about it). If we are affected by others’ opinions (Video 239), it is just an indicator that we haven’t reached our highest potential yet. ]
Any ‘Help’ that makes the receiver feel guilty/ burdened, is or was never the ‘Help’. It may have been an attempt to establish control over other’s psyche or an attempt to feel superior by inducing subtle weakness in others (Video 123), (Video 246).
We help people because, to some extent, we get their attention. If we don’t get a partial control over someone’s psyche in exchange for help, we begin to lose interest in helping them.
( Path of least resistance – We make sacrifices because it’s easier to live with a sacrifice than live without one. People have kids, even if it is difficult, mostly because it’s easier than not having them at all. (try going in the opposite direction))
Leave a Reply